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A Third of Women Believe Having Affairs Can Save Their Marriage

Update Date: May 07, 2013 03:24 PM EDT

One in three women believe that having an extramarital fling can actually save their marriage, a new survey reveals.

The survey found that 73 percent of those who have affairs do it because they feel neglected by their partners.

Researchers found that among the women who reported neglect as the reason for their infidelity, many also reported not having their emotional needs met, a factor that played a major role in their decision to find a lover on the side.

"This is no surprise," Noel Biderman, founder of dating site, told Daily Mail. "Many women lack attention and affection and it's miserable to feel lonely within your own marriage."

"The reality is that many people can't leave their partners for financial reasons and women in particular are usually reluctant to sacrifice their family life," he added.

"So they are taking care of their needs outside marriage. They're stepping into the male arena when it comes to infidelity," he said.

Tracey Cox, a sex expert and Daily Mail blogger says that an affair can sometimes be seen as a wake up call, but in most cases cheating is a bad idea.

"Sometimes an affair can be a wake up call for a marriage and jolt one or both partners into realizing just how important they are to each other and how devastating it would be to lose them," Cox said, according to the Daily Mail.

"But in most cases, affairs devastate relationships. I would never, ever suggest an affair as way of improving marriage because affairs break the trust bond and in most cases, it never recovers," she said, adding that the true was to solve relationship problems is to talk about them and confront them before partners resort to cheating.

The survey found that 67 percent of women polled revealed that their reason for being unfaithful was because sex with their husbands has become boring and monotonous. Around 32 percent of the women who admitted having a boring sex life at home said that cheating gave their sexual relationship with their spouse a boost.

"Men typically reach their sexual peak in their 20s. For women it is later, in their 30s or 40s when they feel more comfortable with their bodies," added Biderman.

"This discrepancy is one reason for the lack of sex that these women are feeling. Everyone wants to be desired, who can blame these women for looking elsewhere?"

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