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How to Build Social Competence in Children

By Dynne C. | Update Date: Feb 28, 2024 02:15 AM EST

Social competence covers a range of skills, such as communication, cooperation, empathy and conflict resolution, that can help in a child's path to success and overall well-being. 

Individuals exhibiting high social competence tend to have better relationships, higher academic achievement and greater emotional well-being. Here are ways to help children build their social competence:

Teach them emotional regulation

To be socially competent, children must learn how to identify and manage their emotions effectively to interact positively with others. Parents can teach these skills by helping children recognize and label their feelings, offering strategies for coping with strong emotions, and practicing healthy emotional expression.

Promote perspective-taking

Empathy and perspective-taking are fundamental for understanding the feelings and viewpoints of others. Parents can cultivate these skills by encouraging children to consider things from different perspectives, asking questions like, "How do you think your friend feels?" or "Why do you think your sister is upset?" 

Reading books and watching movies that feature diverse characters and situations can also broaden children's empathy and understanding of others.

Encourage positive peer interactions

One key aspect of building social competence in children is promoting positive peer interactions. Parents, caregivers and educators can encourage this by providing ample opportunities for socialization, such as playdates, team sports, and group activities. These experiences help children learn how to navigate social situations, take turns, and collaborate with others.

Model positive social behaviors

Children learn a great deal from observing the behavior of adults and peers around them. Therefore, parents and caregivers need to model positive social behaviors in their interactions with others. This includes active listening, respectful communication and showing kindness and empathy towards others.

Provide guidance and support

It is recommended for parents and caregivers to offer guidance and support as children navigate social interactions. This may involve coaching them through conflicts, helping them with problem-solving, and social dilemmas and providing constructive feedback on their social skills.

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