Mental Health

Self-Care vs. Selfishness: How to Tell Them Apart

By Dynne C. | Update Date: Jan 30, 2024 01:21 AM EST

Many people today practice self-care, and some even document their daily routines and journey on social media. However, other people may perceive these acts as selfishness.

The altruistic aspect of self-care

Self-care is rooted in the concept of maintaining one's physical, emotional and mental well-being. Psychologists emphasize the importance of self-care as a means of building resilience and preventing burnout. Engaging in activities that promote relaxation, such as meditation or exercise, triggers the release of neurotransmitters like endorphins, contributing to improved mood and reduced stress levels

Contrary to common misconceptions, self-care is not inherently selfish. When individuals prioritize their well-being, they are better equipped to contribute positively to their relationships and communities. Self-care enhances emotional intelligence and empathy, enabling individuals to navigate social interactions more effectively.

The pitfalls of selfishness

Selfishness, on the other hand, is characterized by a lack of consideration for others. Selfish behavior often stems from an excessive focus on one's own needs, disregarding the feelings and well-being of others. Persistent selfishness can lead to strained relationships, increased stress, and even mental health issues, including narcissistic personality traits.

Nurturing oneself without neglecting others

Psychologist Diane Barth explains the importance of compromise in relationships. It is important to understand and respect individual choices, even in the face of societal expectations or family pressure. There is a complex balance between personal desires and external expectations. She emphasizes the significance of self-care, acknowledging that caring for oneself is not inherently selfish but can enable individuals to be more compassionate and supportive of others. 

A balanced approach incorporates self-care without tipping into selfishness. Setting boundaries, communicating openly, and practicing empathy are essential components of maintaining this equilibrium. Individuals who strike this balance are more likely to experience positive mental health outcomes, which can be good not only for their well-being but also for contributing positively to their social environments.

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