Mental Health

How to Make Cross-Cultural Relationships Work

By Dynne C. | Update Date: Jan 19, 2024 02:49 AM EST

A cultural biography serves as a narrative exploration of an individual's life through cultural experiences and influences. This unique approach explores the dynamic connection between personal history and cultural context, allowing individuals to further understand their identities.

Counselor educator Kyoung Mi Choi explains that to explore one's cultural biography, individuals can chronologically go through their lives, pausing at five to six pivotal incidents that have left a lasting impact. For each memory, they should note the age at the time and provide a brief account of the experience, capturing its essence and associated emotions. 

This reflective journey traces the evolution of one's relationship with their own culture, offering insights into how cultural memories shape understanding, beliefs, and interactions with the world. Mapping out these life-changing moments unveils the threads that weave a unique perspective on life, revealing culturally informed experiences that may have seemed neutral or normal.

Sharing these cultural biographies between couples helps deepen cross-cultural relationships. Here are some points of discussion that can help understand each other's behavior and how their backgrounds impact their current relationship.

Identifying common themes

For cross-cultural relationships to thrive, couples can uncover recurring themes by looking into their individual cultural biographies. They can understand and explore shared narratives while respecting differences to create unity despite diverse backgrounds.

Emotional responses

Using cultural biographies, individuals can navigate emotional responses in cross-cultural relationships. They can explore how each other expresses feelings while practicing empathy and patience. This helps gain insights into cultural influences, which can help form long-lasting understanding.

Understanding feelings and behaviors

By combining cultural biography insights with mindfulness practices and self-reflection, couples can mutually comprehend each other's feelings and behaviors during challenging moments. This helps build adaptability and resilience within the relationship while having evolving cultural dynamics.

Relationship dynamics

With cultural biographies, it becomes easier for cross-cultural couples to identify where they can be more adaptable and where compromise comes in. Understanding what is important for each other, especially relating to their cultural backgrounds, helps create a better-flowing relationship dynamic.

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