Relationship Survey Reveals How Long It Takes For Men to Say "I Love You"

By Christine Hsu | Update Date: Mar 07, 2013 05:48 PM EST

Ladies, it looks like you'll have to wait a little more than three months before you'll hear you're new boyfriend utter those three little one syllable words that make your relationship "official".

According to new research men take on average 88 days for men to say, "I love you" for the very first time to their partners.  As long as that may sound, the study found that women take even longer to profess their love in a relationship. Researchers found that on average women wait 134 days or four months and two weeks before they say the words to their partners.

The study confirms the widely held belief that men do in fact fall in love quicker than women.

The study revealed that 39 percent of men say, "I love you" within the first month of seeing someone compared to only 23 percent of women.  Researchers also found that 33 percent of men had met their partner's family within the first month of dating compared to only 25 percent of women.

The study by YouGov for eHarmoney found that men are also quick to commit with 33 percent saying that they moved in with their partner within the first month of dating.

Contrary to the popular belief that men are terrible at remembering relationship milestones, 77 percent of men report remembered the day they said "I love you" for the first time, and 95 percent remembered the first time they held hands with their partner.

Researchers also found that young people between the ages of 18 and 24 were the slowest of all age groups to both bold hands and share a first kiss.  However, they were the fastest of all age groups to consider themselves in an exclusive relationship with 39 percent considering themselves exclusive after just one week of dating.

When it comes to sex, more men admit to having sex within the first month of dating with 43 percent men admitting to having sex in the first month compared to 36 percent of women.

Surprisingly, men are also quick to commit to long-term relationships with 33 percent of women moving in with their partner within the first year.  The survey also found that 37 percent of respondents got married or engaged within the first twelve months of dating.

Relationship expert Jenni Trent Hughes from eHarmoney says that many traditional perceptions of men being 'commitmentphobes' are outdated.

"After centuries of women questioning the reluctance of men to commit or be romantic, it seems that we may just have been wrong all along! Boys are softies and can be way mushier than us girls," Hughes said, according to the Daily Mail.

"Realistically, and physiologically speaking, the average man tends to be more focused and task oriented than the average woman," she said.  "They establish a goal and set out to accomplish it at all costs, be that running the marathon in less than three hours or wooing the girl of their dreams."

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