Mental Health

How to Tell if Your Coworkers are Gaslighting You

By Dynne C. | Update Date: Mar 01, 2024 01:55 AM EST

Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic used to make someone doubt their own thoughts, feelings and perceptions. 

In the workplace, gaslighting can lead to decreased productivity, low morale and even mental health issues. Understanding the signs of gaslighting from coworkers can help individuals recognize and address this harmful behavior.

Invalidating your experiences

One of the primary tactics of gaslighting is invalidating the experiences of the victim. Coworkers engaged in gaslighting may dismiss other people's concerns, feelings, or experiences, making them question their validity. They might say things like, "You're overreacting," or "That didn't happen the way you remember."

Gaslighters may deny events or conversations that have occurred, causing a person to question their own memory or perception. They might insist that something did not happen or that they never said certain things, even when one has clear evidence to the contrary. This can lead to confusion and self-doubt.

Blaming you for their mistakes

Gaslighters often deflect responsibility for their actions by blaming others. Working with people who frequently blame their coworkers for their mistakes or missteps could be a sign of gaslighting. They may manipulate situations to make others doubt their competence or reliability.

Withholding information

Another tactic of gaslighting is withholding information or selectively sharing details to manipulate a situation. Coworkers engaged in gaslighting may deliberately leave others out of important discussions or meetings, making them feel excluded and isolated.

Constantly changing the narrative

Gaslighters often change their story or the facts of a situation to suit their agenda. They may contradict themselves or provide conflicting information, making it difficult for others to trust their own judgment. This constant shifting of the narrative can leave them feeling confused and disoriented.

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